5 Things Every Couple Should Discuss before Marriage

Marriage is a new phase for every couple, in which two individuals coming from different backgrounds join together in a brand new life. There will be distribution of responsibilities, different habits and traditions, and life situations that might seem unfamiliar to us. Those things may be interesting for some people but distressful for the others.

What to discuss before marriage?

The existing differences

Explore and express your feelings honestly, and discuss all matters such as Hope, Goal, Fear, Background, Education, Parental Caregiving Patterns, Lifestyle and Habit.

Why get married?

Every couple must have different reasons for marriage, such as desire to have children, religious order, finding it is high time to get married, parents' wish and so on.

Hope and expectation of marriage

You can talk about your hopes to your partner, for example the perception on the meaning of faithfulness, the desired communication pattern, the desired number of children, how to spend time together, the interference from the other family members and so on.

How to organize your everyday life?

You can discuss these matters: where to live, the distance from your house to your office, whether you both will continue working, financial management, household responsibilities, etc.

Emotional triggers

For example, how to make decision, how to deal with problems, how to plan for the future and so on.

How to settle the differences?

Acceptance

Accept your spouse as he/she is because every individual has certain uniqueness that might be in opposite to you.

Faithfulness and mutual respect

Build a firm foundation for trust, faithfulness and mutual respect. You will be able to overcome the problems if you can recognize what can trigger your spouse' s disappointment, anger and frustration.

Be responsible

Each of you has to realize that you have a choice to accept all inputs on how to create a blissful marriage.